Finding friendships/textin/social network stuff difficult.
 

This sounds really stupid but I'm finding the above really difficult to deal with. Voices keep telling me if someone doesn't reply straight away/at all it's because they hate me and there is badness seeping out of me that people can see. I cannot stand the idea of people hating me and therefore text again. it's irritating for the other person I'm sure and I know I'm being irritating but It feels like I can't stop myself. I'm terrified that everyone hates me. It gets to the point where I feel so panicked I have pain in my chest and feel sick. It's stupid and bizarre because I know rationally people are busy/stressed themselves/out and about but I can't seem to rationalise the voices and what they're saying.

I'm on the verge of deleting everything or buying a phone that doesn't support apps (if that's even possible anymore) but I'm so scared that eventually ill have to buy a phone that does and go back to that.

I'm a big texter/online person anyway because its my best way of communicating and usually I feel fine about the above but I'm
Going through a period where lots of massive changes are happening and I'm very worried and have high urges constantly and feel the need to seek reassurance. I don't know how to cope and not to completely piss off everyone around me, although I'm sure I have already.

Apologies this is a really really stupid thread and I know people have lots bigger stuff going on and if I get worried ill have to delete it so I'm sorry if I end up doing that.

I can empathise with this completely. I used to do just the same.

I found it helpful, when my brain runs away with thoughts of people hating me etc, to stop, write a list of evidence I have that they hate me...but only stick to facts, not how you feel; e.g. not 'they did x, y, z and it made mr feel they hate me.

Also, try writing pros and cons of texting again/cutting off communication.

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I feel the same way but a little different. I'm constantly worried because i'm used to living with my boyfriend and now he's run off to his brother and his brothers girlfriends house to live because he found a good job there. he is a 2 hour drive away and these people hate me because his girlfriend is a judgmental person who judged me brutally over public internet and so i defended myself and now she hates me and says i'm childish. but any way, my boyfriend has no phone so he can only call me once a night and i only get to talk to him for a few minutes. despite all the things he constantly does that shows he loves me and he's not going anywhere i'm constantly worried and convinced that his brother and her will convince him that i'm worthless or something unsatisfying to him and he will leave me. now i freak out everytime he leaves again when i do see him and i freak out all day everyday i'm not around him because i'm so upset and worried it's to the point where i can't do anything because i'm so distraught over something so completely irrational. i can't control myself and text his brothers phone after they told me several times to stop. so when you say you are afraid that your post is stupid... It is sooooo not stupid I can see where you're comming from and this is very draining on the spirit.

I like the above posters Idea and i plan to try it although i'm not sure that alone is going to make me feel completely better... maybe someone else will post and help us both!!! hang in there!

Hi I have no words but just wanted to say it's not silly it's like I could have written it myself

I'd say the best thing to do (and I know it's easier said than done) is try to relax a little about it.

I'm horrendous at replying to texts, I don't know why, I always have been and it's something I'm trying to work on. When someone texts I read it and then if I don't reply straight away I often forget that it's there and then I can realise 2 or 3 days later that it's still there. I know this habit is probably equally annoying.

With modern life we're all on facebook, email, texts or whatever so much of the time that it can be a little overwhelming.

I'm not sure deleting your apps is a good way forward as you obviously use them to keep in contact with people, which is good.

Maybe you could explain to some of the people you're in contact with about what's going on in your life right now in terms of all the changes and uncertainty. Then they may understand more. Or just try to leave it a bit longer before you start getting stressed about a reply. If you text again, it's more likely to have a worse outcome (as you said yourself) than if you manage to wait for their reply. I'm sure they don't hate you but I can understand why you're getting anxious about it.

Good luck.