Losing the ability to speak when upset
 

I've had this problem for as long as I can remember, if I get upset and someone asks me what's wrong, I physically can't tell them no matter how hard I try I just get worse by trying. It's happened recently; twice while I've been with my boyfriend and once while I was at work experience. I think I'm depressed again because I've been really tearful lately.

With my boyfriend I had to type out on my phone what was bothering me but until I told him all of this, he just thought I was ignoring him.

I don't really know what the point of this post was, I guess I just want to know what causes it and how I can control it?

Edit:
I'd also like to know what 'it' is.

I'm afraid we can't really diagnose you with anything. However we can suggest you speak to your GP about it as it sounds like it is effecting your life quite a bit. How would you feel about that?

If you find it difficult to talk about things maybe go see your GP but take a written letter explaining things? Or ask you boyfriend to come with you :) It definitely sounds like it's worth getting this addressed hun xx

sometimes when we get really upset we lose the ability to speak, its natural and it has happened to me on a number of occasions.

I don't really want to go to my GP, I've been there a lot recently with other stuff like ear infections and keloid scars I'm worried they'll think I'm a hypochondriac or something. Plus I'm busy with work and college so I really don't have time, I hardly get time to myself as it is. I guess I just wanted to know how I could control it a bit better because it's making me look bad.

Unfortunately without knowing the underlying problem it is difficult to suggest things. However have you thought about looking at the mind website or something similar?

when I get upset I freeze and am often unable to say what is wrong. Sometimes I am Ok, but most times not. I just freeze and wait for whoeever to go away.

xxx

it happens that I get completely non-verbal when I feel poorly and struggle to speak when I am just a bit uncomfortable. its not uncommon for people with autism like me but think many people aren't all that talky when they feel bad

Maybe it would help to stop trying to speak when are upset and wait until you calm down to talk about it or try to write it out. It is much easier to articulate how you feel/felt at the time when you are not upset.