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little_miss 11-01-2010 05:24 PM

i need to know...
 
Okay, so a few days ago i had unprotected sex. I talked to my nurse about it, and she seemed to think it was unconsented sex...but im not sure, and that has scared me.
This may trigger, so please be careful...
I invited this boy round my house, as friends, i had no intention of doing anything sexual with him, but he must have had every intention.
We went upstairs to my bedroom. I intended just to lay, cuddle, and chat, not sex. He undid my bra whilst we were kissing, that made me feel uncomfortable.
Then he started going 'down there' i said i didnt want to go that far, and he said okay, but kept on going there anyway. all the time whilst we were having sex, i was thinking how long is this going to last, im not enjoying this, and want it to stop, but im just not assertive enough to say no. i kept on looking at the clock, and wanted it to be over.
why couldnt i say no? i hate my lack of self confidence.
was this "unconsented sex"?
i just need to know, its on my mind now.
my nurse thinks it is and she said, as a professional, i need to tell you you can take this further if youd like, and i'll help you do it (meaning report him) but i cant.
please help.

popsicle 12-01-2010 02:51 AM

It is non-consensual since you specifically said that you didn't want to go that far and he did it anyway.

suspendeddisconnect 12-01-2010 03:39 AM

yeah I think that would be non consensual. I always get confused what is consensual and what isn't as well.

in another life 12-01-2010 06:51 AM

*hugs*
It's definietly not consensual, you said to him you didn't want to go that far but he did anyway. I hope you are able to find support through this because it shouldn't of happened.
Take care

Mikey Moo 23-01-2010 11:22 PM

it's definitely non consensual sex. i hope you're ok xx


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