Instead of "I need to cut"....
 

I've spotted lots of people lately saying "I need to cut".
I personally feel that there's a real emotional need below that. You don't need to cut. You need something else in that moment. The trick is in slowing your mind down enough to realise what that is.

So. A challenge.
The next time you hear yourself think "I need to cut", come to this thread and say what you really need instead.

I like this idea. Got to be worth a try :-)

i need reilf from the pain i feel inside!!

Probably, I need a hug and some affection and to feel loved instead of punishing myself.

i need to acknowledge how bad i feel.
i need an excuse to take care of myself.

fab idea katie

Awesome idea. I do this quite a lot and daniel says but whyyyyyy do you need to?

I shall come back :)

It's a very good idea. Naomi often asks why I need to. And the truth is I need to feel relaxed. I need to calm down and I need help to do that.

This is a very good idea. Thank you.

I need to feel that my pain is 'validated', real. I need some kind of comfort.

I echo what everyone else says- this is a wonderful idea Katie, and thank you.

Right now I need a friend. Someone who'll hug me and distract me and make me laugh. I need to stop hiding and living in fear...

ditto* great thread

i need to see my pain to understand it.
i need to to prove to myself that no one has enough power over me to make me feel bad.
i need a reminder of what i have dealt with.
i need a way to self care without being nice to me.
i need to realize that i have needs. *ironic

This is a great idea for a thread.


Sometimes I feel that I need to be looked after and need someone to love me.
And other times (most times) I need to cut to be punished because I am a horrible person.


Yeah.

I need to cry.

Good idea :)

I need to be in control.
I need to make the hurt into something that I can see, not something whirling around my head.

This is a great thread! Great idea!

I need a hug. I need to be understood for my irrational thoughts.

I need to punish myself

can't think of a way to make that into a positive thing !?

This is a brilliant thread, thank you so much for this. And thankyou to everyone for posting it has helped me tonight.

Edit: just realised that sounds odd, like i'm glad people are in pain. What i meant is that i can relate to some of your needs, and it is nice to hear that those needs are needs and not selfish wants. I obviously need validation to feel that i can need validation (if that makes any sense!!).

I really like this idea as well.

I need to...it's weird. I guess I've never really thought of why I need to cut, and trying to think about it, I know I need to cut, like I feel the urges, but I really don't know what I need.



So after sitting here at this post for literally like 5 minutes, this is what I got:

I need to feel the pain. I need to see myself being hurt. I need to feel content and calm. This kinda sounds weird, but I need something that I know I can do right, and there's no one telling me how I should or shouldn't cut myself, so there's no way of doing it wrong.

air35 I love your icon, and Ruka too :D
Anywaysss..yes great idea, if my computer actualy agrees to corpoerate, I will do this.

I need to punish myself, like I'll never be go enough.
I need this pain or without it..I'm nothing.

I need to punish myself. I need some one that cares about me. I need some one to hold me and tell me everything is going to be okay. I need some one that understands. I just need some one that is there and sees through my lies about being emotionless & not needing anyone. I need some one that actually wants to hear what I have to say. I need some one that won't judge me for not being happy or like everyone else. I just want some one to be there without expecting anything from me.