RYL Forums

RYL Forums (https://www.recoveryourlife.com/forum/index.php)
-   Self-Harm Discussion and Support (https://www.recoveryourlife.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=29)
-   -   Share your tips for staying SH free (https://www.recoveryourlife.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3541)

maria2 11-06-2009 04:20 PM

A big step for me was to think about what I really loved in life that SI prevented me from doing - in my case owning pets and riding horses. I started by looking after my friends cats while she was in hospital for 3 months - I couldn't SI with the cats about, and then I took in my own cats, later started horse riding again (definately cannot do that well with SI) and now I own, care for and train 4 horses - the risk of relapse being fatal, and the thought of what would happen to my horses keeps me SI free. I've been free for 7 years now.


flying[star] 14-06-2009 03:05 PM

must agree of one thing here
Horses are some of the most calming animals in the world...=D

Rayosun 18-06-2009 10:42 AM

In the begining recognizing the feelings were helpful. Like "This is my cutting feeling, but I recognize this and now I must prevent it.

If I absolutely had to hurt myself, I would take an icecube and either hold it in my hand or run it over my body. The change in temperature would help me focus.

Painting has really helped me too. Buy peach paints, red paints, and a canvas. cut, heal, cut heal... you can see how it builds up if you use acrylics.

Lindsey 21-06-2009 06:08 PM

I just made a playlist, of happy dancey music last night. I wanted to cut, but I made this up, put it on and just danced until I was exhausted and felt better.

Katiecakes. 02-07-2009 02:51 PM

I honestly have just filled my life with so much stuff I could not even think about self harming. I guess the doctor's are right when they tell you to find distractions!
I have been upset and triggered at some points but realise that hurting myself is not the answer though I know I will always be a self harmer :)

GlitterandSparkles. 02-07-2009 03:19 PM

I have to sit and talk to somebody or just cry and listen to music.

BetterBecca 08-07-2009 03:58 AM

When I very first started trying to stop, A couple of years now, I taught myself to knit. It is SO not like what it used to be when my mom tried to teach me back in the early 90's. It helps me keep my mind of somthing other than whaat is making me want to SI. And I get something out of it. I'm currently working on a new bag to take with me to the gym. :) I've been working on it a lot lately.

Freya 06-08-2009 07:05 PM

I think of why i definitely DONT want to do it

in-a-pickle 09-08-2009 03:13 PM

I go on websites like this and talk to people who understand how I feel... :)

And get angry and throw stuff across my room. And mess the quilt and my pillows up. And take all the sheets off my bed, then i have to re-do them so it takes longer and there is more time for my urge to go away! :P

Samuel 09-08-2009 03:23 PM


Originally Posted by air35 (Post 1665340)
listen to my cd or mp3 on full blast!! :)

This, works better with headphones and loud shouty music :D.

Sudukos always worked rather well for me, gives the brain something else to focus on. Obviously it won't work for everyone, but yeah.

crombs 08-09-2009 11:31 PM

This might not be for everyone as it involves using scissors, but i like to make origami stars. lots and lots of origami stars, then tip the out onto my floor and pick them back up and put them in to the box where i keep them one by one. keeps my hands busy.

GlitterTrashDoll 08-09-2009 11:42 PM

Music helps me so much. Just blasting out some songs most of the time works for me. If not I read things that some of my close friends have written/made for me.


Originally Posted by Lindsey (Post 1700253)
I just made a playlist, of happy dancey music last night. I wanted to cut, but I made this up, put it on and just danced until I was exhausted and felt better.

I did this. It helps so much! (:
The songs I picked never fail to put me in a good mood!

AidansMommy 13-09-2009 03:37 AM

Playing the piano helps me.

dramaqueen 16-09-2009 02:18 AM

- Drawing pretty and colorful things at the place you want to cut.
It works in two ways: first, you distract yourself for some time minding to draw the details and everything, second, if you cut, you'll spoile the draw. It also works to write positive things (or reminders) on your skin.
- Coloring (yep, being a kid) :)
- holding ice cubes when the urges are too bad.

Oh, one thing I find great: write down a list of the reasons you want to stop and keep it near, when you start to even think about it you'll have a very clear reminder of the reasons not to do it.

ladybug 16-09-2009 08:11 PM

it probably sounds really simple but has helped me so much

get rid of any tool you have.

before when ive tried to stop i always kept one as a safety blanket but if you dont have anything you have to go out and buy them which gives you loads of time to think about it.

Markus 17-09-2009 07:37 PM

I used to injure because I was anxious a lot of the time. For me carrying my tools around with me calmed me down. Another thing that worked for me is I would promise myself I would do some time consuming activity and if I still felt like injuring I would. Most of the time I chose not to.
I don't think these are very helpful to many, but that's what I did.
Don't pressure yourself too much and if you can wean your self slowly do that. As for recovery do it because you want to and not because you feel like you have to.
Sorry this is long.

thisfire 23-09-2009 08:17 PM

don't run from problems. Facing them may seem harder but truly running only makes the problem 10x worse.
If you feel like harming, talk about it to a person you are in confidence with. No matter how little/big it is you will be surprised that talking can aid you in rethinking your intentions rather than acting on unhelpful thoughts. It really does work. Give it a try a step at a time first and see how you get on. That is one way I have stayed si free.

melda 02-10-2009 11:20 AM

Stress balls are great for coping, the activity worker in the hospital I was in gave me one and Im still using it in this new hospital and its really helping me. It keeps my hands busy and releases the tension and takes my mind of things, I can throw it at the wal and catch it or throw it in the air or just fiddle with it, its great!

Crayon, 06-10-2009 11:27 AM

Always keep a goal in mind, wether it be 'i won't self harm for the next week' or 'i'll be self harm free by this time next year' always keep a goal. Reward yourself at regular intervals throughout the journey, be it every week or every month.
If you think about it, look how far you've come and how long you've abstained from it, try double it.
Keep a playlist of 'up beat' music, such as techno/dance/pop music on your ipod/mp3 also to drown out thoughts enlist in some screamo music and turn it up full volume when needed.
Use exercise, be it dance, swimming, surfing/bodyboarding, full out running anything to just wear you down so you are physically exhausted to the point where you cannot do anything. Or even join a gym.
Eat healthily, this can sometimes help with mood which often impacts on our thought process.
Get out be social, avoid situations in which you are able to harm yourself.

But in the longrun you have to WANT to be free and if you are doing it for anyone but yourself its not worth it. Do it for yourself, treat yourself, let your skin relax.

Nocs 12-10-2009 09:46 PM

I find a lot of ideas to turn the urge away from oneself very helpful!
A few of them I’ve already known and others are so creative. For instance the one with the piece of wood you cut into instead of your arm.

For some of you it could work to chew on something that’s really sour (in Germany there is a gum called “Center Shock”). Or maybe if you bite in a lemon as well ^^

All times are GMT +1. The time now is 06:53 PM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.6.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2021, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.