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Eccentrics 06-09-2012 04:51 PM

Just letting myself cry helped lots for me!
As simple as it seems, after I've cried I can usually calm down, step back from the situation and think rationally.

Also, NOT counting the days helped me not to identify myself with self harm, and therefore not think about it and just completely erase it from my life. :D I found that having things to remind myself of it (counting days, butterfly project etc.) just reminded me that I was a self harmer and did the opposite of help for me.

I think I'm around 11 months free right now! :D

Comatose. 10-09-2012 10:38 PM

Reading all the posts in this sub-forum make me so glad and happy that this forum exists in the first place. I know it's helped so so many people including myself, and I hope everyone becomes happy :)

Wonderland. 10-09-2012 11:39 PM

I have found that since I've been wearing short sleeves in public that has really helped deter me from cutting.

DougRyan25 20-09-2012 06:45 AM

I simply hang out with my friends and keep myself busy from doing my hobbies such as cooking and reading books. Sometimes erroneous words do really break me, but now I make myself tough from all of them. I did not allow negative words to ruin my day.

dairychick92 25-10-2012 07:30 AM

For me, listening to calming piano music, playing the piano, and spending time with my best friend (my german shepherd dog) have helped the most. I haven't recovered yet.. but when I get the urge to cut I lay on my bed, close my eyes and immerse myself in music. I shut everything else out and focus only on the music until I forgot whatever triggered me or until I fall asleep :P

* imagine.. * 02-11-2012 08:32 PM

doing things i love :)

pinkflower 29-11-2012 10:17 AM

Before I do anything else I try to check 5 things (to memorize them I use my fingers):
When was the last time I:
1) got sleep
2) ate
3) drank (not alcohol or coffein!)
4) went outside
5) talked to someone nice
Then I check if I'm cold. Then I ask myself, what do I feel or need aside from the urge to SH? Then I try distraction (see the distraction page or this thread).
It's really basic stuff, but for me it has been helpful. I'll be free for 2 years in 4weeks :)

snoozerloser 02-04-2013 08:37 PM

-not giving in-
Heard this song today and thought of all of you out there needing some motivation.

Haven't SH for a whole week now and feel encouraged by this song specially at full volume. Some of you might find this style of music too 'mainstream' or what ever but I want to encourage you still to give it go.



Thisisnotok 18-07-2013 08:49 PM

onething that helped me was if you look in my siggy I went to pitapata.com and got made a timeline wich helps me count the days and see how far ive gotten

Anarchymummy 23-07-2013 09:28 PM

I'm now 5yrs or so free (had a few 'mishaps' last year) and have found that taking it one day at a time helps and not 'blaming' yourself if you do slip up.
I found writing down my feelings let me 'feel' my emotions better than SI.

MrsJacks 10-08-2013 05:37 AM

It will be 7 years for me in October (wow! Is it even possible?!) In the beginning, I stayed on RYL all day. When I'd have urges late at night, when things were quiet and everyone was asleep, I'd play the games on here. It was because of RYL I found out about escape the room games. Once I felt comfortable in my recovery outside of RYL I took up knitting. That kept my hands, and mind, busy. And creating lovely things gave me a sense of accomplishment.

My husband was also a wonderful support. Now I am a Christian, and I find that reading the Bible keeps me feeling hopeful instead of hopeless. There are times I nearly slip, but I have stayed clean these years. It's a great feeling.

TinyRye 24-09-2013 10:07 PM

Drawing the bad feeling on paper works for me. (at least most of the time.)

Or going outside to run.

not_so_insig 27-09-2013 09:11 PM

I have a diary. Each day I am free of SI, I put a butterfly sticker on that day's entry.

When I feel like SIing the butterfly project helps me, as well as colouring in. I dont care if it sounds childish, but it helps me. You have something to show for it too.

Wonderland. 27-09-2013 09:14 PM

I find exercise helps as does colouring in and talking to friends :)

forever_consumed 21-02-2014 09:44 PM

going to the gym, and playing with my hamster helps me a lot!!! Read my journal to find out more :) good luck everyone and well done however I'm only 3weeks.clean but that's a massive achievement for me.. X

olliemoose 05-03-2014 06:10 AM

I've painted my closet doors with chalkboard paint, so when my friends come over I have them write encouraging messages to me. They help me to remember that there are people who care. I'm pretty sure the paint can be found at either a local craft store or hardware store. I'm not quite sure where my dad got it, but it's one of the two.

olliemoose 05-03-2014 06:27 AM

Also, I like fire and the warmth it brings to me & the space around me. I usually write down all the things that are triggering me at the time (mostly negative things about myself) and burn them in the fireplace. There's something satisfying about watching your problems go up in smoke and turn to ash. Also if I'm feeling really stressed out at night, I sneak outside (usually around 3 am when it's the most clear) and look at the sky. When you think about how much stuff is out in the universe and that you're just a microscopic spec in the big picture, it makes problems seem a lot less daunting.

disneyfreak 05-03-2014 10:45 AM

talking to my friends
talking to my youth worker
coloring in
drawing in red pen
watching tv
watching movies
having a bath or shower a hot one
shoe shopping
disney games
using a weighted blanket
cuddling my teddies
craft, art and design
dying my hair
curling up in something fluffy
doing work [irony as this is normally a stressful thing for most]
meowing at the cat ^_^

if i think of anymore i'll come back and update....

coolkid98 05-03-2014 04:59 PM

Keep yourself distracted- watch tv/films, read, talk to friends, etc.

StickWitMe 23-05-2014 08:41 AM

Simply extend your love to someone or anyone.. even pets. puppies are really really awesome on showing loyalty. the joy they bring to your life is incredible. Knowing that someone's life depends on you (may it be a person or a pet), you'll begin to love yourself and you will surely hesitate to do SH..

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