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one_step_closer 15-10-2019 02:51 PM

*hugs if ok* You're doing this. How are you now?

chinahorse 15-10-2019 03:22 PM

I'm pissed off and barely holding it together.

Had to remind them I was here to see a dr about an operation not just a shitty dressing change. Then basically demanded the dr does a skin graft. So now he's gone to speak to his boss.

one_step_closer 15-10-2019 06:40 PM

It's a shame you're having to fight for things so much. Did they get back to you about what the plan is?

tamobhuuta 15-10-2019 07:24 PM

Well done for asking for a graft. Did they get back to you?

chinahorse 15-10-2019 07:53 PM

So the consultant was lovely but very frank with me. I get 1 chance and they will discharge me to the community if I tamper with anything etc. The operation is on Friday. I explained to the cosultant that it'd help me. It kind of wipes the slate clean if you get what I mean? I'm not explaining well. But he got it.

The hospital called my psych team and basically demanded they see me before Friday and regularly after the operation. And I am to call the hospital and they will push the issue further if they don't.

In the process of telling my mum :-/

chinahorse 15-10-2019 08:02 PM

Well my mum is charming. Not. Told me I'm not good enough at looking at my cat and it's not fair on him.

Juella 16-10-2019 05:40 AM

I see what you mean about wiping the slate clean, it makes sense. I hope it helps, and it's also great that the hospital will make sure you finally get help. I'm sorry things didn't go as well with your mum, though.


As far as I can see, you're an amazing loving cat mum and your mum isn't being fair on you.

one_step_closer 16-10-2019 01:33 PM

It sounds like some good progress is being made, I hope everything works out for you.

Your Mum seems to just put you down most of the time like she's picking random things to get onto you about. I also think you're a very good cat Mum.

chinahorse 16-10-2019 01:43 PM

Thank you. I feel a bit more positive today.

And thanks. My boy thinks I'm the worst mum in the world cos I'm not giving him second breakfast :-P

And yes. My mum has always been like it. But when I lived further away I forgot how bad it was. We used to work at the same place, that sacked me last month. She told them not to speak to her about me when I was off and didn't tell them where I was. And now she's saying to me that it's my fault because I didn't tell them the night I was extremely delusional and in a and e and getting sectioned that I wouldn't be at work. And she is defending works actions in sacking me. It hurts.

one_step_closer 16-10-2019 01:49 PM

I'm glad you're feeling a bit more positive, try to hold on to that.

Isn't it cat lunch time yet?! Terrible not giving food on demand. :tongue2: That's my cats' complaint too!

I'm sorry your Mum is causing you so much hurt. I hope you understand that the things she blames you for aren't actually your fault.

chinahorse 16-10-2019 01:51 PM

He doesn't get lunch.

It's very hard as it confirms that I'm a bad person. And people keep telling me she loves me and is a good person. Therefore it's hard not to believe it.

one_step_closer 16-10-2019 01:58 PM

Maybe people don't see what your Mum is like with you, so that she seems to be a good and caring person. What she says doesn't confirm anything other than that is her opinion and she's not being very supportive. It must be very hard to hear all that stuff though.

chinahorse 16-10-2019 02:14 PM

And my dad who is usually much better has just been not nice when I told him about the operation. Shouldn't have said anything but then he'd have kicked off too. I can't win.

Auror. 16-10-2019 03:48 PM

People can love and care about you and still be awful or say awful things. Just because someone loves you unfortunately doesn't always make them a good support person.

Is there anyone else you can go to for support that would be nicer to you? You deserve that.

one_step_closer 16-10-2019 04:04 PM

That is very true, and sometimes when people say hurtful things it has a lot to do with them more than it has to do with you. I hope you do have some kinder people in your life.

chinahorse 16-10-2019 05:56 PM

Thank you. That does make sense camden.

Cmht rang and said they'd put an appointment in the post for me. But that way I won get it before Friday when I wi be away between 3 and 5 days.

one_step_closer 16-10-2019 06:33 PM

Did you say that to the CMHT Lillie, or did they just leave a message on your phone? I hope you don't miss the appointment.

chinahorse 16-10-2019 06:48 PM

It was a voicemail cos I was napping.

tiptoes 16-10-2019 06:58 PM

My mum is a lovely caring person to a lot of people. Some of her actions as a mother are far from that. Just as few people are purely bad, few people are purely good too and it is often their closest relatives that bare the brunt. I'm sorry that both your parents are being unhelpful to put it mildly! Please know this. It reflects more on their character and not on yours.

Thinking of you

one_step_closer 17-10-2019 02:31 PM

Are you going to phone the CMHT to let them know you'll be away? I'd hate for you to miss the appointment and then they use that against you somehow.


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