My sister
 

Hi everyone. I could do with some comfort and advice. My sister is depressed, very depressed, has been for a long time but last few days things have been even worse. She just tried to leave the house so as to carry out her suicide plan but luckily Dad saw her and persuaded her to come back. How do I help her? How do I show her i care without her feeling guilt tripped?

I'm sorry your sister isn't doing too well right now and that you're having to go through this. If you were in your sisters shoes, how do you think you would want someone to show you that they care? I'm sure she already knows that you care but being in such a dark place can make it hard to acknowledge. Are you getting some support too?

I want to tell her that I love her. She's my favourite person. But I think she might take that as guilt tripping.

Mum told me not to worry but that's easier said than done.

I might make my sister a coffee.

Making her a coffee sounds like a nice idea, maybe you would be able to have a chat while she drinks it. You could be honest about how much you care for her and let her know that you're not trying to guilt trip her. Maybe she wouldn't believe that but I think your honesty is important and people need to hear how much they are loved.

It's very hard not to worry about people you love. Do you have ways to look after yourself and try and get some time to relax? Keep posting here if it helps to talk through things.

Thanks. I'm worried she will end up in hospital because they don't take her seriously in there, my parents do a better job of keeping her safe. They also insist on changing her diagnosis to EUPD, even though she has been assessed by an EUPD specialist who said she wasn't. Even though she has epilepsy they didn't check on her during the night.

I texted her just saying I love her and she texted back. She said it was helpful me just being around and she will try not to harm herself. Now we're both listening to music with Dad. She's spoken to her CC and the MH line and they were very unhelpful. They tried to get her to look forward to the future when she is struggling with the right now. I know they're trying to help but they're not very good at it!

She went for a walk with Mum, they met the police and so far she is remaining calm while they wait for the triage car. I know it's hard for N to have contact with police, there's a lot of trauma there. But they do keep her safe while she's with them.

N is talking to Triage outside. Unfortunately the nurse is one we know well and is terrible.

I wish there were more options.

N has agreed to have dinner, take meds and PRN, see if that helps. She said she would try to stay safe until the meds take effect. I expect we'll be seeing the police again tonight.

She tried to leg it so I ran after her, when she saw me she turned round and came back to the house. She said if it had been anyone else she'd have carried on running.

I'm glad you and your sister have each other. It sounds like you both care a lot about one another. I hope you both can manage to stay safe tonight.

N is still here, she managed a little sleep thanks to PRN. Mum is working from home so there are more people to keep an eye on her.

N went for a walk with Mum. She was wanting to leg it so Mum called the police, they were really helpful persuaded her to come home without a big fuss. This is good thing as she has PTSD from past meetings.

It's sad that your sister is having a hard time and it must be stressful for you all. I'm glad that you are all able to look after her though, you sound more helpful than MH services at the moment.

The psych called her. He did her a lorazepam prescription and is seeing her tomorrow. The police also referred her to informal crisis house but she's googled it and she's not sure. You have to be able to keep yourself safe.

I'm glad people are trying to help. I hope your sister makes whatever decision is right for her about the crisis house.

How are you doing?

I'm stressed out. I don't know if it's about my sister or my own issues.

It might be a bit of both. Is there anything you want to talk about here?

I feel like it's my fault. If I SH maybe the Organisation will leave my sister alone.

We're sitting on the sofa, N is shaking like anything and can't really talk. I think she's putting all her efforts into not leaving the house again but it's draining her. I'm staying on the sofa so she can talk when she's ready.

Has anyone been like this? What helps you when you're feeling this bad?