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Darkwings44 12-02-2019 05:22 PM

Telling the truth?
How do i tell my therapist about the abuse i went through as a kid and as a adult?:confused:

one_step_closer 13-02-2019 06:11 PM

That is a brave thought and could be a good step. What makes it difficult for you to disclose? Would it be any easier for you to write something and give it to your therapist?

Darkwings44 13-02-2019 06:35 PM

Ive only been seeing her for a few times and im scared too
No im too scared to

one_step_closer 13-02-2019 07:23 PM

Maybe as you get further into therapy you will feel more able to trust her and a little more comfortable with sharing difficult stuff.

Darkwings44 13-02-2019 07:37 PM

Ok I'll try. .....

Greyscale 14-02-2019 12:53 AM

It can definitely be difficult to feel safe discussing things of this nature. If you think it might be easier or help explain symptoms you're experiencing, maybe you could say something along the lines of 'I went through some difficult experiences both as a child and as an adult, but I'm not currently ready to talk about them. I'd like to build up some safety in our therapeutic relationship first.' just to kind of give her a heads up that there is a history there AND make it clear that you're not ready just yet to delve into something so difficult.

I started with a new therapist back in September and we've still not really gotten into the vast, vast majority of my experiences because it takes time to build up the safety in the relationship and build up skills to be able to tolerate discussing them. There's nothing to say you need to delve into the worst stuff right away, and there's absolutely no shame in taking your time to build up skills and safety in your therapeutic relationship before throwing yourself into the deep end.

Darkwings44 14-02-2019 02:47 PM

Ok I'll try that. .....

Darkwings44 19-02-2019 06:47 PM

I’m going to see my therapist this week on Thursday so wish me luck

one_step_closer 20-02-2019 04:10 PM

I hope it goes well. Only do what you feel comfortable with.

Darkwings44 20-02-2019 06:51 PM

ok i will

Horizon 02-03-2019 02:48 PM

How are things with your therapist now as you get more used to her?
Have you been able to discuss any of these issues with her?
Keep in mind that you don't have to tell your therapist everything at once, unless of course that's what's best for you.
During the difficulty of disclosing, please go at your own pace and do what feels safe and comfortable for you.

If you have discussed this with her already, I hope it went well!

Darkwings44 07-03-2019 09:19 PM

It went well
Yeah some of it but not all of it.....
Ok thanks

She wants me to write a letter to my abusers

Buttons. 12-03-2019 06:21 PM

You mean to actually send to your abusers, or just write what you would want to say to them?

Darkwings44 21-03-2019 10:55 PM

Write what I would say to them

one_step_closer 22-03-2019 03:08 PM

Have you had a go at writing the letter?

Darkwings44 29-05-2019 10:23 PM

No we talked about it and stuff but we didn’t write like she said that I would

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